Dating life as a Hard of Hearing Individual

Dating life is hard for a person like me who can be both in the hearing and deaf world. Let me explain why that is...

First of all dating in general is hard for any person.  Today guys just don't want to date. For whatever reason they just like to "hang out".  I don't understand why . However  a person like me it even harder to date. 

First thing I am ask by multiple of people is "why don't I date deaf guys.  Most of the time I do not answer. Well I am going to answer to why it's hard to date a deaf guy.

1. For whatever reason  deaf guys like to date hearing girls. I do not understand this concept. If anyone can explain to me why I am on all ears.

2.  Deaf guys that are my age are either  on social security income and don't feel that getting a job  or getting an education is important. Or they are just like hearing guys in general don't want to date just "hangout".

3. A part of me is scared to date a deaf guy because my family can't communicate with him. Therefore he would not want to go to family functions (Which my family has a lot of). I do not want to become isolated

4. There is not a lot of deaf guys out here or maybe I haven't found the right one..

Now am I completely against dating  A deaf guy? No.. I want a guy who is able to be independent not have to depend on family for money or SSI or SSDI. I think it's important to marry a guy who has an education. I want a guy who able to communicate to me as well as my family.

Dating a hearing guy is just as hard as dating a deaf guy.

1. When Hearing guys find out that I am deaf or hard of hearing they do not talk much during the date even though I have told them I do well with lip reading and one on one .

2. They ask if I ever get married would I require my husband to sign. I said it would be nice because I can't hear when my hearing aid is out or in situations where it is hard for me to hear.. I see fear in their eyes. 

Just talk normal. 

3. One of my biggest pet peeves about dating hearing guys is they over enunciate. Seriously!!!!

4.  Another thing that I don't like but understand why. They always  ask "were you always deaf" " How much can you hear". For once on a first date I don't want to talk about deafness or "My Life Story" I just want a normal date.  What is a normal date? Maybe there is't a normal date.  I understand they want to know and why so they can communicate better with me. But sometimes I get tired of that question. 

5. Another pet peeves the first date is a movie. Seriously let's get to know each other instead of silent. When we get out of the movie they ask me "Did you like the movie"  and they start talking about the parts that I couldn't understand because I couldn't read lips of the characters  in the movie.  When there is nothing left to talk about they drop me off and say "I had a good time let's do this again".  I have come to the conclusion when the say that they are just being polite because they never call. I know they don't like me because I am deaf or they are scared because they don't know what to do.

I just want to be treated like every normal hearing person. Is that too hard to ask??? I talk , I may have a slight deaf accent. But for whatever reason the minute I say "hey I am deaf/hard of hearing I just need you to look at me when you talk" everything changes.  Just because of one simple request. 

So it is hard for a person who lives in two worlds to date because we are not we are completely deaf. That seem to get the attraction of deaf guys. We are not completely hearing therefore the hearing guys don't know what to do with us.